It happens all the time here in Norilsk and elsewhere. You log into Facebook and see a picture of your best friend hand and the caption: "Congrats!". No need to read any further: they are getting married,
You are happy for him, but also kind of jelous and overwhelmed by what come next: all the comments, likes, gifs and memes about being engaged, getting married, while you may be thinking in buying a cat since you are going to be forever alone, and blah blah.
When you think about it, you are not able to remember when marriage was something you wanted. There was no day when you knew that you were open to engagement as another step to adulthood.
You see all your Norilsk friends pairing off, planning weddings, or even having kids!
Months ago all these were just insane and unbelievable ideas. "I am engaged", "I am getting married", "We are expecting a baby", has suddenly become standard phrases amongst all my friends.
Now, in our twenties, the focus has shifted to finding a partner with whom you can make a serious, lifelong commitment. It is hard to be seen as an awkward teenager, but I was not very much into romantic scenes or changing diapers.
Norilsk is such a great city to hang around with friends and live a life full of pleasures
Pleaseures with no strings attached, that it was impossible to me thinking differently.
It’s an overwhelming feeling to experience – everybody rushing to pair off and start a life together – and it often makes you feel like that’s what you need to do next.
You don’t even have time to think about whether or not it’s what you want right now, because the feelings of urgency have erased any sense of logical thinking in your mind.
And then it happened...
She appeared with her blue eyes, her soft hands and her perfume.
The most beautiful woman in Norilsk! In Siberia! In Russia!
And she says that she is mine, made for me, and for nobody else. I discover myself thinking that marriage is a beautiful thing I know that it seems like all the newly engaged and newly married people are oozing with happiness, and they probably are. But I know that marriage is hard, that marriage is work... and I am open to do whatever it takes to keep our marriage as our special and sacred commitment, even when it just becomes part of everyday life. But my life with you will be awesome I know.
My friends keep telling me to marry my Siberian love... and I hope she wants that too.